How to Handle Your Emotions, Bible Study 1.23.19

Synopsis of Bible Study 01/23/19
5-Part Series
Series Title: How to Handle Your Business

Week Four: How to Handle Your Emotions

Delivered by: Bishop Joseph W. Walker, III, D.Min.

Proverbs 29:11, “A fool vents all his feelings, but a wise man holds them back.”

    I.          Introduction

1. Some people have had a lot they wanted to say to people and yet they decided to hold back. God gave us emotions, but we must know when to hold back.

2.      We were created to have dominion over everything, this includes our emotions.

Scripture Reference: Genesis 1:26-28 (NIV) ²⁶ Then God said, “Let us make mankind in our image, in our likeness, so that they may rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky, over the livestock and all the wild animals,[a] and over all the creatures that move along the ground.” 27 So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. 28 God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky and over every living creature that moves on the ground.”  – This is an issue of self-control

3. One may ask, why do we have emotions? Emotions are reactions to things that happen in life. You can’t go around not feeling anything. It is ok to have emotions, but our emotions should be in tune with God’s will.

II.   Change Your Mindset

1. Manage your mouth by managing your mind
2. You can manage your mind sometimes by managing your mouth
3. Your emotions originate in your mental space. The hardest thing to ever change is our mind. Have you ever who was passionate about something, but they were passionately wrong?

Scripture References: Philippians 2:5 (NKJV)⁵ Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus,  – What is the mind of Christ? Our nature reflects the word of God and not our emotions.

3.      Romans 12:2 (NKJV) ² And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God. – What we do, must be in line with the perfect will of God. We do not react, we respond. This is the mind of God.

1. To react is not the perfect will of God. You pray about it, think about it, and then respond.

 

 

 

1. Find peace by obtaining a new perspective
2. We find peace by finding a new perspective.

Scripture References:- You have peace when you reflect on God’s will.

 

2. Control is about focus. Even though circumstances around me are changing, my focus is not on what is changing, but instead what is constant.
3. My peace is not absence of chaos, but the presence of proper perspective.

a.      Philippians 4:7(NKJV) ⁷ and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.  – Elijah was depressed and about ready to throw in the towel. He had fasted for 40days and 40 nights. He went into a cave and the voice of God asked what was he doing there?

b.      God knew where he was, but he wanted to know where Elijah was emotionally.

4.      Where you are emotionally is where you will end up physically. Elijah needed a new perspective.

a.      Isaiah 26:3 (NKJV) ³ You will keep him in perfect peace, Whose mind is stayed on You, Because he trusts in You.

b.      1 Kings 4:10 ^10 [a]Ben-Hesed, in Arubboth; to him belonged Sochoh and all the land of Hepher; – Elijah was fed up and let his emotions get the best of him. All it took was one encounter with God to get the proper perspective.

5. Your emotions will cause you to neglect the thing that will change your perspective. Elijah thought he was alone, but God was talking to him. Elijah realized he wasn’t the only one going through.
6. God’s word will always give you a perspective.

 III. Choose New Methods

1. Seek the help of the Word of God to find a better way
2. God’s word has to be centric. If you are not careful, you will find yourself spiraling out of control. When you are in a funk, you are in a funk.
3. The enemies aim is to paralyze your purpose.

3.      The prophet Jeremiah was in a funk.

Scripture Reference: Jeremiah 20:7-9 (NKJV) ⁷ O Lord, You ^[a]induced me, and I was persuaded; You are stronger than I, and have prevailed. I am ^[b]in derision daily;
Everyone mocks me. ⁸ For when I spoke, I cried out; I shouted, “Violence and plunder!” Because the word of the Lord was made to me A reproach and a derision daily. ⁹ Then I said, “I will not make mention of Him, Nor speak anymore in His name.” But His word was in my heart like a burning fire Shut up in my bones; I was weary of holding it back, And I could not  – Ever felt like God tricked you? Jeremiah wanted to quit.

4. God’s word will bring you back. Behind your “but” is the Word. Imagine how the people don’t have the Word make it. They have nothing to revert back to.

 

 

 

1. Select new approaches to deal with conflict
2. Learn to control your passions. You cannot say everything you think or act on everything you feel. You have to have self-control.

2.      Think before you speak. (Scripture Reference: Proverbs 15:1 (NKJV) 15 A soft answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger.) – It is not what you say, it’s what you think.

1. A soft answer turns it away wrath.

3.      Deal honestly with your feelings. Stop sweeping things under the rug. Deal with it. (Scripture Reference: Ephesians 4:26 (NKJV) ²⁶ “Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath, )- You can’t play with your emotions.

1. You have a beef, then everything you think keeps building

4.      Take care of yourself. There is a relation between your emotions and health. Ever notice when you work out, you feel better. You have to work some stuff off. (Scripture Reference: 3 John 2 (NKJV) ² Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers. ) – There are a lots to deal with. You have to take of yourself.

1. Create New Management

1. Take control away from others and get control of you
2. Stop letting people manipulate your emotions. This can bring on cursing and even crying.

Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is made up of the following four core skills: – This is monitoring your emotional ability.

1. Self-Awareness – Your ability to accurately perceive your emotions and stay away from them when they are happening.
2. Self-Management – The ability to use awareness to stay healthy emotionally
3. Social Awareness – The ability to accurately pick up emotions of others and realize what is going on. This is when everyone you work with says you are hard to work with and you are the only one that doesn’t see it.
4. Relationship Management – Awareness to use your emotions and others to get things in action.
   1. You feel the room out and you know how to move and react to make things happen.
5. Scripture Reference: 1 Corinthians 10:13 (NKJV) ¹³ No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to ^[a]bear -You got to know when to make your exit. You can’t let someone elses emotional stuff mess up your life.
6. Turn your emotions around and think on God’s level
7. You emotions has a lot to say about who you are.
   1. “In the egoic state, your sense of self, your identity, is derived from your thinking mind – in other words, what your mind tells you about yourself: the storyline of you, the memories, the expectations, all the thoughts that go through your head continuously and the emotions that reflect those thoughts. All those things make up your sense of self.” –Eckhart Tolle
   2. How you see yourself can a bearing on how you react.
8. Sometimes God does things that you think don’t make sense.

Scripture References: Isaiah 55:8-9 (NKJV) ⁸ “For My thoughts are not your thoughts, Nor are your ways My ways,” says the Lord. ⁹ “For as the heavens are higher than the earth, So are My ways higher than your ways, And My thoughts than your thoughts.  – We have to have faith that God knows what he’s doing

a.      Philippians 4:8 (NKJV) ⁸ Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things. – You got to get your emotions in place. Your inability to manage your emotions is what causes so many crazy things to happen.

3. When you operate in Word of God, you operate in facts, not in the way that you feel. Apply the facts before the feelings.
4. With facts upfront, then there is a certain set of things you live by.
5. God gave you amazing authority over your feelings. If I don’t make your emotions obey, they will make you obey.
6. You got too much to do to sit around and be an emotional wreck.