Wonder What God wants for Christmas?

By Darius Rucker

Old man playing Santa Claus
Blue in a town with old Jack Frost
Now he’s handing out candy canes and smiles for free
People scoring with their lists
Rushing around to buy those gifts that will
End up wrapped up underneath the tree
I’m sitting at this red light looking at a manger scene
Watching snowflakes kiss that baby
And it makes me think

I wonder what God wants for Christmas
Something that you can’t find in a store
Maybe peace on earth, no more empty seats in church
Might be what’s on His wishlist
I wonder what God wants for Christmas

What do you give someone
Who give His only Son
What if we believe in Him
Like He believes in us

I wonder what God wants for Christmas
What might put a smile on His face
Every bubble with no dust, the devil given up
Might be what’s on His wishlist

I wonder what God wants for Christmas
What kind of gift from you and me
More sister, more brother, more lovin’ one another
Yeah, I wonder, I wonder what God wants
By now we oughta know what God wants for Christmas
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Series Title: The Fight of My Life Part III, Bible Study 09/26/18

 

Week Three: How to Live Your Best Life

Synopsis of Bible study 09/26/18

Delivered by Bishop Joseph W. Walker, III, D.Min.

 

Psalm 23:5-6, “You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies; You anoint my head with oil; My cup runs over. 6 Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life; and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever.”

I.          Introduction

  1. Life is full of struggles, but it shouldn’t have a starring role in your life. At some point, your struggles should be over.
  2. Some people are always going through something. These people constantly complain, because they want to know that people care about them. The problem with this is, if you are always going through something, then people begin to wonder how long the tunnel is? Why is it taking so long for you to get your breakthrough? Are you sitting on the side of the road in park?
  3. You have the ability to move from a place of struggle to a place of overflow and ease. Your worst days can turn into your best days if you walk in wisdom headed to your end.
  4. The force that has come against you has taken too much of your life. God is a God of restoration. He wants you to be restored. Joel 2:25-26 (NKJV) says 25 “So I will restore to you the years that the swarming [a]locust has eaten, The crawling locust, The consuming locust, And the chewing locust, My great army which I sent among you. 26 You shall eat in plenty and be satisfied, And praise the name of the Lord your God, Who has dealt wondrously with you; And My people shall never be put to shame. -When the fight has depleted you, God will send resources your way to restore what you have lost. He will direct things into your path.
  5. Many of you have been in the fight of your life for so long, it is time that you to encounter some sweat -less victories. Put down your fighting gear. You have got to learn to live your best life.
  6. Many of us have different ideas of what our best life is. If we were to pass the mic around, everyone would have d different description of a best life from their perspective.
  7. Living your best life is about being in the right positon. Blessings come to a position and not necessarily to the individual. This is why it is important for you to be in proper position. Ex-For those of you that know about football, you know that a quarterback may try and move the ball down the field is by throwing to the spot that the receiver is supposed to run to. For this reason, it is important for the receiver to get to that spot in the time he is supposed to. If he doesn’t, then the receiver cannot catch the ball and advance down the field.
    1. It is important for us to know that the blessing is in the air, but God needs you to get to the spot that you are supposed to be in. There is power in positioning! You need to understand the power of positioning. Jeremiah 29:11 (NKJV) says 11 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.- God is not trying to hurt you. God needs you to make conscious decision to live your best life.
  8. How to live your best life:
    1. Live every day with a fresh Know that the present is the present. You can’t bring yesterday’s stuff into today. Lamentations 3:22-23 (NKJV) says 22 Through the Lord’s mercies we are not consumed, Because His compassions fail not. 23 They are new every morning; Great is Your faithfulness. – God wants you to have a fresh start today. Don’t let stuff pile up on you. You have to learn to release your issues and realize that today is a new day.
      1. If you want to know if tomorrow is a new day, realize that if you wake up and open your eyes, you have reached a new day.
    2. Live more consciously each day. We wake up every day naïve, not realizing what is around us. 1 Peter 5:8 (NKJV) 8 Be [a]sober, be [b]vigilant; [c]because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour.- The enemy is looking for a weak mind every day.
      1. You must realize that life is not to be lived on autopilot. It is to be lived in real time.
      2. When you encounter people, then follow your spirit. Our mentor says I don’t want you paranoid, but treat everything like a setup. People are your friend until they are not. The devil is slick and sly. Don’t go through life naive.
    3. Create your own opportunities. You have to be proactive. You got to be in position when it time for your gifts to be used.
      1. Learn to be an answer to the problems around you. You are pregnant with promise and it doesn’t just involve one thing. There is more inside of you than what you think. Invent a system that bring resources to you verses chasing systems and begging for resources.
      2. Look at the aunt. Proverbs 6:6-8 (NKJV) says 6 Go to the ant, you sluggard! Consider her ways and be wise, 7 Which, having no [a]captain, Overseer or ruler, 8 Provides her [b]supplies in the summer, And gathers her food in the harvest.- What is the ants’ system? Simply they have decided that they will bring food from one place to another and they won’t allow anything in their path to deter them from completing their mission.
  • Let’s examine the enemy that is watching a person who is determined like the ant. The snake wants to cross the ants’ path, but it knows better than to try, because the snake knows the ants have a system in place that will prove fatal to the snake, if he tries to cross their path. The snake is not scared of the ant, but he is afraid of their system. If you work your system, then the enemy knows not to cross your system. If your system has you bored, then you need to change your system.
  1. Be authentically you. Stop measuring yourself to the standards of others. Galatians 6:4 (NKJV) says 4 But let each one examine his own work, and then he will have rejoicing in himself alone, and not in another.-You are unique. Psalm 139:14 (NKJV) says 14 I will praise You, for [a]I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well. – There is a time that the mentee has to find its own way. God anoints things that are authentic not When you are authentic, the people who really love you, want you to be authentic.

II.          The Prepared Table

A. You have reservations at the table God prepared for you

  1. So often, we try to gain access to tables that God didn’t prepare for us. Sometimes you are on the uninvited list, because you want to eat off of the wrong menu.
  2. Your diet determines your destiny. Ex – Daniel was invited to eat at the kings table. They had access to all that they could have dreamed of in the place. What was being served was considered forbidden food, according to their religious beliefs. As a result, Daniel and his men requested other food. Daniel 1:8-17 (NKJV) says 8 But Daniel purposed in his heart that he would not defile himself with the portion of the king’s delicacies, nor with the wine which he drank; therefore he requested of the chief of the eunuchs that he might not defile himself. 9 Now God had brought Daniel into the favor and [a]goodwill of the chief of the eunuchs. 10 And the chief of the eunuchs said to Daniel, “I fear my lord the king, who has appointed your food and drink. For why should he see your faces looking worse than the young men who are your age? Then you would endanger my head before the king.” 11 So Daniel said to [b]the steward whom the chief of the eunuchs had set over Daniel, Hananiah, Mishael, and Azariah, 12 “Please test your servants for ten days, and let them give us vegetables to eat and water to drink. 13 Then let our appearance be examined before you, and the appearance of the young men who eat the portion of the king’s delicacies; and as you see fit, so deal with your servants.” 14 So he consented with them in this matter, and tested them ten days.15 And at the end of ten days their features appeared better and fatter in flesh than all the young men who ate the portion of the king’s delicacies. 16 Thus [c]the steward took away their portion of delicacies and the wine that they were to drink, and gave them vegetables. 17 As for these four young men, God gave them knowledge and skill in all literature and wisdom; and Daniel had understanding in all visions and dreams.- God had brought Daniel into favor with the Chief Eunuch. After being urged by the Eunuch to eat the food that the King assigned them to eat, Daniel prayed for stuff that they could eat without going against their beliefs.
    1. The Chief Eunuch was concerned if Daniel and his men didn’t eat of the king’s food, they would look poorly compared to the other men and it would anger the King. Daniel asked the Chief Eunuch to allow them to eat just vegetables for 10 days and then compare their look with the others. After the 10 days was up, Daniel and his men looked better than the men that had eaten the king’s food. Daniel would not eat the forbidden food, because he had made a decision to eat of the Lord’s Table.
    2. 5 yrs ago, you were comfortable saying “Let’s turn up!”, but now, like Daniels and his men, your diet has changed. You are trying to eat from the Lord’s Table now. God will do the same for you as he did Daniel, if you wait for him to prepare the table. The word given to you by your Bishop or your Pastor is a diet for the people that want to eat from the Lord’s Table.

B. God invites your enemies to provide them with evidence of your elevation

  1. When God prepares the table for you, He will invite your enemies to prove that you have been elevated.
  2. Proverbs 25:21-22 (NKJV) says 21 If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat; And if he is thirsty, give him water to drink; 22 For so you will heap coals of fire on his head, And the Lord will reward you.- God’s ways outweighs your ways.
  3. Romans 12:19 (NKJV) 19 Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord.

“Whenever you are confronted with an opponent. Conquer him with love.”
― Mahatma Gandhi

 

III.          The Provision at the Top

A. The oil of the anointing flows down, not up

  1. The anointing doesn’t flow without order. Psalm 133:1-2 (NKJV) says 133 Behold, how good and how pleasant it is For brethren to dwell together in unity! 2 It is like the precious oil upon the head, Running down on the beard, The beard of Aaron, Running down on the edge of his garments.
  2. When Samuel was looking for the next king, no one passed the test. He then inquired for somebody else and it turned out to be David who had been serving out in the fields. This is proof that you can’t be salty about serving in the background. Don’t leave your post too early!
    1. How to Remain in Position While in Pursuit of Your Best Life:
  3. Stay where God sent you.
  4. Submit to those where God sent you to serve.
  • Serve with faithfulness and skill.
  1. When you are in the right position, you will live in overflow. You’ve got to learn to embrace overflow.
    1. 3:20 Ephesians 3:20 (NKJV) says 20 Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us,- God can only bless you with overflow equal to the sustainability in your life.
  2. God don’t want you to have a seasonal blessing. I pray that you never become a once was.
  3. God will protect you. He we rebuke the devourer for your sake.

IV.          The Protection in the Temple

A. Goodness and mercy are a benefit of being covered

 

  1. Psalm 91:1-2 (NKJV) 91 He who dwells in the secret place of the Most High Shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty. 2 I will say of the Lord, “He is my refuge and my fortress; My God, in Him I will trust.”- When you are covered by God, He will make sure you’re insured. God is just like the State Farm commercial. He shows up on the scene, just when a crisis occurs.
    1. Sometimes God will show up before the crisis occurs.
  2. Deuteronomy 31:6 (NKJV) 6 Be strong and of good courage, do not fear nor be afraid of them; for the Lord your God, He is the One who goes with you. He will not leave you nor forsake you.”
    1. You are guaranteed an all access pass to the best life.
    2. Every day you wake up, a fresh start begins.

B. You are guaranteed an all access pass to the best life

  1. John 10:10 (NKJV) says 10 The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly. – God is waiting on you. The devil tries to still your joy every day. In doing this, he wants to destroy your name.
  2. It does no good to come to church and shout and not live the life you shout about. You have to have a prayer life that moves you to the next dimension. God wants you to live your best life. Everything you touch, God will bless.

 

V.          Conclusion

This will be a season for abundance! Start making room! I declare over your life that God is going to open the windows of heaven and pour you out blessings, more than you have room enough to receive.

That next thing you do that’s Big, make sure you share your testimony with us!

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The Fight of My Life Part II, Bible Study 09/19/18

Part II: How to Face Tough Decisions

Bishop Joseph W. Walker, III, D.Min.

Synopsis of September 19, 2018

Proverbs 3:5-6 (NKJV)  says 5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; 6 In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall [a]direct your paths.

Life is full of decisions. It is important however, to understand how to use them. The decisions we make have a bearing on how our life plays out.

When things are complicated, we find ourselves in a place of indecision, leading to something unhealthy.

The wrong decision can be fatal. As you reflect over the decisions you have made over your life, many would agree that there are some decisions you made, that you wish you could get back.

Often when we come to this place, where we lean to people for advice. The sad thing is, the people we often go to are people that can’t handle their own situation.

I.        Introduction

  1. Scripture Reference: James 1:5 (NKJV) says 5 If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him.
  2. When you are at a crossroad, what should you do? James 1:5 says when facing tough decisions, you don’t have to do it on your own. Just ask God about it.
  3. Here are 10 things that you will have to work through in your life eventually. Grade yourself letters A – F based on how well you think you did on each one.
  4. Tough Life Decisions:
    Choosing a Life Partner
    2. Choosing to Buy a Home
    3. Choosing to Have Children
    4. Choosing a Career Path
    5. Choosing Where to Live
    6. Choosing to Leave a Relationship
    7. Choosing to Reconnect with a Loved One
    8. Choosing When to Retire
    9. Choosing Long-term Care for a Family Member
    10.Choosing to Discontinue End of Life Support for a Relative
  5. In these circumstances, you will have to be guided by wisdom. This is why it is important to stay focused.

II.        Maintain Your Focus

A. If it’s not addressed to you, don’t give attention to it

 

  1. Conserve your energy to make decisions for yourself. At some point, you have to learn to mind your own business. 1 Thessalonians 4:11-12 (NKJV) says 11 that you also aspire to lead a quiet life, to mind your own business, and to work with your own hands, as we commanded you, 12 that you may walk properly toward those who are outside, and that you may lack nothing.- This is the process of making tough decisions. The toughest decision you will ever have to make is cutting others off, so that you can deal with your own stuff.
  2. The bible says anyone born of a woman is but a few days of trouble. Why then would we add more trouble on ourselves, by adding other people’s problems into our lives?

B. The right mindset will lead to the right moves

  1. You got to take over you mind and not let your mind take over your life.
  2. 2 Corinthians 10:5 (NKJV) 5 casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ,- Casting down images is referring to the images that the enemy puts into your mind.
  3. The enemy will plant images into your mind that will contradict what God has told you to do. Those images will make you doubt what God told you.
    1. Images will cause you to have bad thoughts. Images in your head will have you seeing your own funeral. God says cast those thoughts down!
  4. To have right frame of mind.
  5. Methods to help keep the right frame of mind:
    1. Only allow the best information to rest in your thoughts. Colossians 3:2 (NKJV) says 2 Set your mind on things above, not on things on the earth.- Only allow the stuff to do with your destiny inside your space.
    2. Shape your mind with vision and goals. Think about what your life goals are. Make decisions based off of your goals. Some people get in on everything, serve on every board, and get involved with every project, simply because they don’t know how to say no. These type of people take on too much stuff.
    3. Your decisions has to line up with your destiny. Your decisions must line up with your assignment. The day Lazarus was raised from the dead, there were others dead inside the grave. Jesus went to the cemetery and only called Lazarus’ name. It would have been a good thing to raise all the people up from the dead, but Lazarus was part of Jesus’ assignment.
      1. Romans 12:2 NKJV) says 2 And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.
    4. Protect your mind from erroneous thoughts and opinions. Some people think everything they read on Facebook is true. There is a big difference between the truth and a lie. The truth has legs, but a lie has wings. Therefore, lies have nothing to stand on. Often we make decisions based off of lies and then afterwards we realize that we should have waited.– Romans 8:5-8 (NKJV) 5 For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit, the things of the Spirit. 6 For to be [a]carnally minded is death, but to be spiritually minded is life and peace. 7 Because the [b]carnal mind is enmity against God; for it is not subject to the law of God, nor indeed can be. 8 So then, those who are in the flesh cannot please God.
    5. Strengthen your mind with positive thoughts. Philippians 4:8 (NKJV) 8 Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.– We are so bad about bringing other peoples issues into our situation.
      1. You don’t need negative people’s stuff within your situation.

III.        Manage Your Feelings

A. Don’t allow the process of decision making cause you to become unstable

  • “Crying is all right in its way while it lasts. But you have to stop sooner or later, and then you still have to decide what to do.” ― C.S. Lewis –You can’t cry forever. Emotional drama and hard decisions together can trip you up.
  1. Too many options can sometimes be overwhelming. When you make a decision, you got to stick to it and be confident that it is right. James 1:6 (NKJV) says 6 But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for he who doubts is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind.– Ex- This is a metaphor. You want a 2019 7 series BMW, fully loaded. You go to the dealership and you are ready to purchase this dream vehicle. The salesman says that they are all on backorder and informs you that it will take a couple of months to receive this car in, but he lets you know that he has a 2018 5 series BMW that you could take right now.
  2. You decide to take the 2018 5 series instead of waiting on the 2019 7 series BMW, because you did not want to wait. Somewhere around Dec, you see someone pass by you with the new 7 series BMW and you begin to think that you wished you would have waited. It bothers you so bad, you try to diminish the quality of the 7 series just to make you feel better about the 5 series that you shouldn’t have got.

 

B. You must learn to face complicated problems with confidence in the Problem Solver

  1. God has already fixed it. Jeremiah 29:11 (NKJV) 11 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.-, Ephesians 5:8 (NKJV) 8 For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Walk as children of light

IV.        Move Your Life Forward

A. There is too much at stake for you to be stuck

“Truly successful decision-making relies on a balance between deliberate and instinctive thinking.” ― Malcolm Gladwell

 

 

  1. You are one step away from your next level in life. Hebrews 12:1 (NKJV) 12 Therefore we also, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which so easily ensnares us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us,- One thing that causes us not to move forward is our being weighed down by other people.
  2. In order to move on, you got to move ahead with intentionality. To be fearful of making a wrong decision causes you not to make a decision at all. For example, for everyone that did not vote, know that you did vote. Your failure to make a decision caused a decision to be made anyway.

B. Once you are headed in the right direction, there is no reason to look back

  1. When you go forward, you got to be willing to following God and not worry about looking back. Why are you looking back checking on how the hell you left behind is doing? Proverbs 4:25 (NKJV) says 25 Let your eyes look straight ahead, And your eyelids look right before you.
  2. Lot’s wife looked back when they were leaving Sodom and Gomorrah and turned in to salt. Genesis 19:26 NKJV) says 26 But his wife looked back behind him, and she became a pillar of salt.- You are an individual that has to make a decision apart from your group.
  3. There is no need to look in the rear view mirror, when the light is green. You focus ought to be on what’s ahead of you. Every decision has to be a decision of intentionality. Isaiah 43:18-19 (NKJV) says 18 “Do not remember the former things, Nor consider the things of old. 19 Behold, I will do a new thing, Now it shall spring forth; Shall you not know it? I will even make a road in the wilderness And rivers in the desert.

V.        Conclusion

  1. All Bishop Walker knew about Nashville when he first come here was Hee Haw, but God made a way in the wilderness. When you make the right decision, you are where you go, and you are position where you are supposed be, then God will take care of you.
  2. He didn’t have any money and he didn’t have any furniture, but people from the church took care of him. He was given many things, even a couch. God provided for him. Who would have known that he would end up being the Pastor of church here?
  3. Everything has to be done with intentionality. Every day you wake up, there are choices. You can’t control them. There are decisions of what you can and there are consequences from the decisions that you make.
  4. The enemy wants to get into your choices and decisions to change the view while minimizing the circumstances. Adam and Eve allowed one decision to cost them the whole garden and his caused sin to enter the world.
  5. Think about our choices. Ask God for wisdom when making choices. Know that one decision can affect your whole life.

 

 

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Series Title: The Fight of My Life, Bible Study 09.12.18

Week One: Believing in You

Synopsis of Bible Study 9/12/18

Delivered by Bishop Walker III DMin

 

Foundation scripture: Hebrews 10:35-36 (NKJV) 35 Therefore do not cast away your confidence, which has great reward. 36 For you have need of endurance, so that after you have done the will of God, you may receive the promise:

I.                Introduction

  • All of us have to face challenges and some of our challenges are intense. Know that challenges are not sent to knock the wind out of you and cause you not to pursue your purpose.
  • As you encounter life, you have to realize there is another side to your suffering. When challenges you begin to realize that there is fight in you.
  • Know that life doesn’t make an appointment. Life just happens.

A.    You have to fight from a place of faith.

2 Corinthians 2:14 (NKJV)  says 14 Now thanks be to God who always leads us in triumph in Christ, and through us [a]diffuses the fragrance of His knowledge in every place.- There is a 100% guarantee that you will be triumphant if you allow God to lead you.

  1. If you go through the hell on earth and believe that you are a victor and not a victim, then you are
  2. Relationship with Christ, puts His DNA into my life. This makes me respond like Him during life’s struggles.
  3. It makes me respond like him. Philippians 4:13 (NKJV) says 13 I can do all things through [a]Christ who strengthens me.- Through relationship, I am empowered. In his strength, I am able to do what I could not do.
  4. There are things we barely made through with Christ in our lives. Imagine then someone trying to go through this same stuff without Him. When you understand this, you realize that through this relationship, you refuse to go through, living your life in the past.

 

II.              Struggles of your past

A.    Never allow your past pain to cause you to lose confidence in your assignment.

  1. Just because you have lost a few battles, doesn’t mean you will lose the war. The enemy will try to make you look like you are failing, but you got to realize that the battle isn’t over until God says so.
  2. You got to stop romancing your mistakes. Fight forward! Fear is the only thing that can cause you not to win.

 

  1. Philippians 3:13-14 (NKJV) says 13 Brethren, I do not count myself to have [a]apprehended; but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, 14 I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. – Brethren in this scripture is universal term. It has nothing to do with Gender. It is talking to both male and female.
  2. Read the characteristics below and circle the things that you feel apply to you.
  3. Characteristics displayed when we fear failing:
    1. Failing makes you worry about what other people think about you.
    2. Failing makes you worry about your ability to pursue the future you desire.
    3. Failing makes you worry that people will lose interest in you.
    4. Failing makes you worry about how smart or capable you are.
    5. Failing makes you worry about disappointing people whose opinion you value.
    6. You tend to tell people beforehand that you don’t expect to succeed in order to lower their expectations.
    7. Once you fail at something, you have trouble imagining what you could have done differently to succeed.
    8. You often get last-minute headaches, stomach aches, or other physical symptoms that prevent you from completing your preparation.
    9. You often get distracted by tasks that prevent you from completing your preparation which, in hindsight, were not as urgent as they seemed at the time.
    10. You tend to procrastinate and “run out of time” to complete your preparation adequately.
  4. All of these things will make you forfeit your future. This is about you allowing your past pain to dictate your future. This is self-sabotage.
  5. In order not to be hindered, you must be
  6. Paul says he recognizes that he doesn’t know everything, but he chooses not to focus on what’s behind him.
  7. What is Paul doing? He is reaching. There is no way to reach without stretching. Paul is saying he is reaching beyond what is natural. You can’t spring forth, if you are clinging to something. Your future is tied to what you are willing to let go of.
  8. What is press the root word of? It is the root word of “pressure”. Pressing means something will always be pressing against you. We have to press against whatever is pressing against us in order to get to our goal. My pressing is tied to my fight!
  9. When you press something, you are pressing against some type of force. For example, you don’t press your clothes unless they are wrinkled. You press against the wrinkles to smooth out the pants. If a tire is flat, then the air you put in must press against the tire to inflate it.
  10. Ex – Bishop was on a trip for his birthday. He got the opportunity to see Floyd Mayweather train. Bishop notice that when he trains, he did a lot of getting hit. This was strange to Bishop, because Floyd is known for avoiding getting hit.
  11. During the training session, Bishop noticed that Floyd had trained himself to respond with a counter blow, every time someone hit him. Normally when someone gets hit, they buckle, especially if it is in the stomach. This is was not the case with Floyd Mayweather though. Every time he got hit, the responded with some kind on counter blow.

 

B.     It happened to make you stronger not to stifle you

  1. Just like all the hitting done to Floyd in his training, you got to know that it came not to stifle you, but instead make you stronger.
  2. When there is a struggle, there is resistance. You can’t struggle without gaining more power. Everything you have gone through has made you stronger. If you look back on it, you can see where you have gotten stronger. Things that would have broken you down years ago, does not break you down today. You have gotten stronger mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually all because of the things you have gone through.

 “To be a champ you have to believe in yourself when no one else will.”
–Sugar Ray Robinson

2 Timothy 2:12 (NKJV) 12 If we endure, We shall also reign with Him. If we deny Him, He also will deny us.- Your ability to stay in the fight will get you to the next level.

III.            This is the season for preparation.

A.    The season following your painful predicament is practice for your promotion.

  1. You got to stay in combat mode. Don’t become comfortable or complacent. Some people can pass the strength test, but not the endurance test.
  2. David says in Psalm 40:1-2 (NKJV) 40 I waited patiently for the Lord; And He inclined to me, And heard my cry. 2 He also brought me up out of a horrible pit, Out of the miry clay, And set my feet upon a rock, And established my steps.-David gives us insight of something he encountered. This was not a physical place, it was a spiritual place.
  3. David said he was in a dark pit, in slippery clay. When he tried to get out, he kept slipping back in it.
  4. To keep slipping back, trying to come out, implies that David was here for a while. He was there long enough to realize that he couldn’t get himself out, so he cried out to God! He prayed to Him who could get him out and so God reached down and pulled him out of this place and did for David what he could not do himself.

“Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.” –J.K. Rowling

  1. God set his feet on a rock. He established his going. David implies that he was in a pit filled with darkness and despair. He was functioning in a slippery space. He learned how to survive in the mud. He was institutionalized by his situation.
  2. When God brought him up, He sit him up on new terrain. It was stable foundation and God had to teach David how to walk on it, reminding him that he belonged there. David had been in his situation so long, he did not know how to function in his new environment.
  3. If I don’t’ understand how to establish how to operate on my new foundation, I live in fear that I might slip and fall. You got to learn how to walk on your new terrain when God brings you up.
  4. You got to believe in you. God didn’t bring you up for nothing. If you hadn’t hit rock bottom, you wouldn’t know that life had a bottom.

B.     You are called to walk in confidence to the place He is about to take you

  1. God is about to take you somewhere. Some of you have already been sensing it in your spirit. 2 Corinthians 2:9 (NKJV) 9 For to this end I also wrote, that I might put you to the test, whether you are obedient in all things.- You got to be willing to fight through some things in order to get to the place you dreamed about.

“Great it is to dream the dream when you stand in youth by the starry stream, but a greater thing is to fight life through and say in the end the dream is true!” –John Osteen

  1. God set great things in your path, but they won’t come to past, if you don’t fight for it. You can’t just hope for the best. You got to fight through and make great decisions.
  2. We think through faith and we study the word in context. Divine intervention doesn’t happen without human interaction. You have a role in the process. There are many places in the bible where God responds after you move. One example is when God says if you bring the tithe, he will open the windows of heaven.
  3. Human responsibility + divine intervention makes (=) miracles happen.
  4. David had to fight from the pasture all the way to the Palace. Joseph didn’t make it from the pit to palace without fighting through some things. That person around you looking nice, who seems to have it all together, will tell you that they had to do a lot of fighting to get where they are.

IV. The Significance of the Promise

A.    The promise is guaranteed for those who learn to endure. You won’t have to wait long.

  1. Hebrews 10:37 (NKJV) 37 “For yet a little while, And He[a] who is coming will come and will not [b]tarry.- It won’t take long. You been hit so much, you’ve developed an immunity to it. You promise is on the way.
  2. Daniel didn’t run from the lions in the lion’s den. Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego didn’t run from the fiery furnace. Isaiah 41:10 (NKJV) says 10 Fear not, for I am with you; Be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, Yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.’- Know that you can endure. 2 Timothy 2:3 (NKJV) says 3 You therefore must endure[a] hardship as a good soldier of Jesus Christ.– Endure like a good soldier.
  3. You’ve rid yourself of fear. Now:

B.     Faith is required on the journey towards your future.

  1. Forgive those who hurt you
  2. Forsake trying to impress others
  3. Forge new and healthy relationships
  4. Focus on what’s important
  5. Faith it, don’t fake

 

1 Corinthians 15:58 (NKJV) says 58 Therefore, my beloved brethren, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that your labor is not in vain in the Lord.– What you are doing is not out of order.

V. Conclusion

  1. Every attack is going after your hope. The enemy wants your hope.
  2. Your hope is tied to your faith.
  3. You got to come to place where you believe in yourself. Stop doubting where you are.
  4. You’ve made mistakes, but now that behind you. Romans 8:18 (NKJV) 18 For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.- There is glory coming in your life. Glory does not come in your life absent from a story. No story, no glory.
  5. You wouldn’t go through it, unless God was about to blow your mind. The glory of the Lord will come over everything in your life, because you didn’t give up.
  6. Stay in the ring and keep fighting!
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Series Title: Overcoming Toxic Relationships , Bible Study 08/15/18

Series Title: Overcoming Toxic Relationships
Part 3: Understanding the Attack on Your Gift

Saul and David

Synopsis of Bible Study 08/15/18

Delivered by Bishop Joseph W. Walker, III, D.Min.

 

  • Relationships have a tendency to go into a variety of directions. People are your friends, until they’re not. Your allies are your allies until they are your
  • Relationships have a variety of purposes too.
  • For some people, if you make them mad enough, you will hear them tell you all that they felt bad about you. The scary thing about this is, they felt this way about you the whole time when you thought they were your
  • 1 Samuel 19:9-10 (NKJV) says 9 Now the distressing spirit from the Lord came upon Saul as he sat in his house with his spear in his hand. And David was playing music with his hand. 10 Then Saul sought to pin David to the wall with the spear, but he slipped away from Saul’s presence; and he drove the spear into the wall. So David fled and escaped that night.

I.          Introduction

  • Toxic relationships come in many forms.
  • Toxic relationships are harder to detect in Spiritual relationships than in Carnal Relationships. Being spiritual, one would think that we would be able to handle toxic relationships better than unsaved people, but this is not something we should purposely embrace.
  • “Toxic people attach themselves like cinder blocks tied to your ankles, and then invite you for a swim in their poisoned waters.” – John Green. – In otherworld’s, the residue of a toxic relationship stays with us.
    • 1 Peter 5:7 (NKJV) 7 casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.- Some things are so big and so hurtful, we have to be wise enough to give them over to the Lord.
  • Sometimes we feel guilty for letting people go. Ex- When Jonah was on the ship and the terrible storm came, they had to throw him overboard, before the storm stopped. Sounds bad, but look at this way. When you throw people off the ship, you are releasing them into their destiny. Jonah would have never done what God wanted him to do, had he not been thrown overboard and been swallowed by a whale. Release them into their destiny.
  • We have to learn to overcome toxic relationships.

A.    The five warning signs associated with an unhealthy relationship:

As you go through these, think about people in your life that resemble these signs.

  1. There is a constant power struggle. Your presence makes people feel like you are taking something from them, because their gifts are all about them.
    1. Psalm 9:13 (NKJV) 13 Have mercy on me, O Lord! Consider my trouble from those who hate me, You who lift me up from the gates of death,,
    2. Psalm 27:2 (NKJV) 2 When the wicked came against me To eat[a] up my flesh, My enemies and foes, They stumbled and fell.
    3. Your gifts are for God, not self-edification. If you value them for you, then you depend on the glory you get from people instead of giving glory to God.
  2. The person brings out your worst qualities. Jeremiah 20:7-9 (NKJV) 7 O Lord, You [a]induced me, and I was persuaded; You are stronger than I, and have prevailed. I am [b]in derision daily; Everyone mocks me. 8 For when I spoke, I cried out; I shouted, “Violence and plunder!” Because the word of the Lord was made to me A reproach and a derision daily. 9 Then I said, “I will not make mention of Him, Nor speak anymore in His name.” But His word was in my heart like a burning fire Shut up in my bones; I was weary of holding it back, And I could not.
  3. You have a contrasting communication styles. “Attempting to hurt someone with words is not the way to resolve conflict or communicate hurt feelings.” – Keri Nola-
    1. These are people that don’t know how to say stuff. Proverbs 12:18 (NKJV) says 18 There is one who speaks like the piercings of a sword, But the tongue of the wise promotes health.- There is a way to say something bad, good.
  4. You feel bad about yourself when you are around that person. When you’re in a relationship with a person that leaves you feeling torn down instead of built up, then that relationship is
    1. Some people can be way too critical. Ephesians 4:29 (NKJV) 29 Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary [a]edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers.- if a person says nothing you do is ever right, then that is
  5. The person is prone to irrational frequent displays of jealousy. Jealousy is birth out of Saul’s jealousy was because he was envious of David. Many gifts we have, many gifts we don’t know we have, but we know that they will be revealed in time. One thing we know for sure is, we are gifted.
    1. 1 Samuel 17:34-35 (NKJV) 34 But David said to Saul, “Your servant used to keep his father’s sheep, and when a lion or a bear came and took a lamb out of the flock, 35 I went out after it and struck it, and delivered the lamb from its mouth; and when it arose against me, I caught it by its beard, and struck and killed it.

 

  1. 1 Samuel 17:6-12 (NKJV) 6 And he had bronze armor on his legs and a bronze javelin between his shoulders. 7 Now the staff of his spear was like a weaver’s beam, and his iron spearhead weighed six hundred shekels; and a shield-bearer went before him. 8 Then he stood and cried out to the armies of Israel, and said to them, “Why have you come out to line up for battle? Am I not a Philistine, and you the servants of Saul? Choose a man for yourselves, and let him come down to me. 9 If he is able to fight with me and kill me, then we will be your servants. But if I prevail against him and kill him, then you shall be our servants and serve us.” 10 And the Philistine said, “I defy the armies of Israel this day; give me a man, that we may fight together.” 11 When Saul and all Israel heard these words of the Philistine, they were dismayed and greatly afraid. 12 Now David was the son of that Ephrathite of Bethlehem Judah, whose name was Jesse, and who had eight sons. And the man was old, advanced in years, in the days of Saul.-Saul was angry because they credited David with more.
  2. The moment focus shifts from them that is the moment that they stop celebrating.
  3. If your relationship is effected after you are elevated over them, then it is toxic. Ex – When Bishop Walker first started Pastoring Mt Zion, there were only about 65 who people showed up on Sunday. At the time, Bishop thought Mt Zion was going to be a training ground for him to go somewhere else.

 

Later Mt Zion grew to 125 people. At the height of this, Bishop was preaching everywhere. Invites to preach were coming in all the time, but as soon as Mt Zion started to really grow, the invitations stopped coming. All of a sudden, people were concerned about Bishop “taking members”.

 

It is not about where people go, it is the fact that they go to serve the Lord. The point to this whole thing is, as soon as the success started, Bishops relationship with other ministers and churches changed.

 

For some, relationship changes, when they can’t contain what happens to you. True friendship can celebrate your happiness whether it includes them or not.

 

II.          Anointed by God

If Satan can get you to give up on the small stuff, you will forfeit the big stuff.

A.    The Assignment in your life will always call you forward

  1. When David was anointed, he was overlooked at first. Samuel had tested all of his brothers trying to find out who would be God’s next chosen king. The problem was, no one passed the test.
  2. This made Samuel want to know if there was anyone else back there that they could have overlooked. When you are anointed, you have to be content with being the “anyone else back there?” person.
    1. 1 Samuel 17:34-35 (NKJV) says 34 But David said to Saul, “Your servant used to keep his father’s sheep, and when a lion or a bear came and took a lamb out of the flock, 35 I went out after it and struck it, and delivered the lamb from its mouth; and when it arose against me, I caught it by its beard, and struck and killed it.;

 

  1. 1 Samuel 16:7-12 (NKJV) 7 But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look at his appearance or at his physical stature, because I have [a]refused him. For[b] the Lord does not see as man sees; for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” 8 So Jesse called Abinadab, and made him pass before Samuel. And he said, “Neither has the Lord chosen this one.” 9 Then Jesse made Shammah pass by. And he said, “Neither has the Lord chosen this one.” 10 Thus Jesse made seven of his sons pass before Samuel. And Samuel said to Jesse, “The Lord has not chosen these.” 11 And Samuel said to Jesse, “Are all the young men here?” Then he said, “There remains yet the youngest, and there he is, keeping the sheep.” And Samuel said to Jesse, “Send and bring him. For we will not [c]sit down till he comes here.” 12 So he sent and brought him in. Now he was ruddy, with [d]bright eyes, and good-looking. And the Lord said, “Arise, anoint him; for this is the one!” – It’s ok to wait your turn. Sometimes they have through the rejects to appreciate what they had.

 

B.     God will move you from the pasture to the palace

  1. David comes out and doesn’t look the part. God has a way of moving you from pasture to palace. 1 Samuel 16:14-16 (NKJV) 14 But the Spirit of the Lord departed from Saul, and a distressing spirit from the Lord troubled him. 15 And Saul’s servants said to him, “Surely, a distressing spirit from God is troubling you. 16 Let our master now command your servants, who are before you, to seek out a man who is a skillful player on the harp. And it shall be that he will play it with his hand when the [a]distressing spirit from God is upon you, and you shall be well.”- God never ever ordained Saul to be king. It was the people who wanted him.
  2. Saul was narcissistic and egotistical and as a result, God’s spirit left him.1 Samuel 16:17-18 (NKJV) 17 So Saul said to his servants, [a]“Provide me now a man who can play well, and bring him to me.” 18 Then one of the servants answered and said, “Look, I have seen a son of Jesse the Bethlehemite, who is skillful in playing, a mighty man of valor, a man of war, prudent in speech, and a handsome person; and the Lord is with him.”- Saul was distraught and the people wanted a harp player to play over him to get him out of his slump. David’s father sent him to minister to Saul.
  3. It is important for you to know that some people that God sends you to minister to, will later be a menace back to you. This can be painful too. You need people in your life that can celebrate all of your gifts, not just the ones that benefit them. There is some world changing stuff inside of you.

 

III.          Attacked for Your Gift

Your gifts will cause attacks.

A.    Your gift will create opportunity and opposition

  1. Your gift will make room for you. Proverbs 18:16 (NKJV) says 16 A man’s gift makes room for him, And brings him before great men.-
  2. Don’t invite yourself. Allow yourself to be invited. If you are anointed, God will find you and bring you before that which is great.
  3. Ex- Do you remember Bishop GE Patterson. He was one of the greatest and Presiding Bishop’s that ever lived. He was from the COGIC doctrine. When Bishop Walker (then Rev Walker) first met Bishop GE Patterson, he had no idea that God had positioned him.

 

  1. God placed Bishop among all these great men, even though he was considered small in the Ministry. Bishop Walker was invited to a big meeting one time and when he got there, he wondered why he had been invited to such an event with all of these Big Name Preachers. At the time, Bishop Walker only had 65 members at Mt Zion.
  2. Later on Bishop was invited to preach at Bishop GE Patterson’s church. When Bishop Walker got up to preach, Bishop GE Patterson prophesied over him and told all about the big church he would later lead. Bishop Patterson was prophesying about him leading the now Mt Zion and his current position as Presiding Bishop of the Full Gospel Doctrine.
  3. All the while, Bishop Walker wondered why him? The answer is, your gift will make room for you! It’s not about us, it is about God!
  4. Shortly after Bishop Walker preached at Bishop Patterson’s church, he became a mentor for Bishop Walker. They became so close, that when Bishop Patterson passed away, his wife called Bishop Walker and told him that Bishop Patterson wanted him to have all of his Bishop shirts. This means a lot to the Mentee.
  5. The whole point of the scenario is this, Bishop never had to run around trying to be noticed. All Bishop had to do is stay comfortable in his lane. God will open up doors to people that will blow your mind!
  6. Ephesians 2:10 (NKJV) 10 For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.- God prepared you. Your gifts were prepared for God’s purpose for you.
  7. Think about your gifts. You’ve probably only tapped into about 7 of the gifts that you possess. The funny thing about this is, the enemy is not after those gifts you have tapped into. He is after the other 93 gifts that you haven’t even discovered yet. Your enemy is after your not-yet! The enemy knows that if you tap into your not-yet, then you will for sure be a threat then!
  8. In the story Saul is struggling with being a “has been”. Saul should have mentored David, but instead, he tried to stop God’s plan.

B.     Learn how to be strategic when you encounter strife

 

  1. Know your limit. 1 Samuel 19:18 (NKJV) 18 So David fled and escaped, and went to Samuel at Ramah, and told him all that Saul had done to him. And he and Samuel went and stayed in Naioth. – At some point, you have to know when to say that’s enough.
  2. You got to set boundaries. Even if you love them, you have to set boundaries. David loved Saul, but he left his house. Staying there would not have been good for him and was a danger to God’s plan.
  3. Continue to operate in your gift. David was still operating in his gift. When you read the 23rd Psalm, you might think David might have been sitting on the beach relaxing when he wrote it. The truth is David was actually running from Saul when he wrote that. You have to learn to minister while you are under attack.
  4. Jesus was hanging on the cross, but he still ministered. “forgive them”, “Mother, behold thou son”, and “this day, you will be with me in paradise”
  5. Where God is getting ready to take you, you got to learn that these attacks come with the territory. In fact, I would be worried if I was doing God’s will and not being attacked. In fact on person wrote this phrase that is food for thought. It says: “When you get to the point of greatness, don’t read comments”.

IV.          Appointed for Greatness

A.    God does not anoint you without an appointment

  1. Ecclesiastes 3:1 (NKJV) says 3 To everything there is a season, A time for every purpose under heaven:- there is a season for preparation. – People just see your elevation. They never see your struggle. They don’t realize the stuff you really overcame, didn’t make the paper.
  2. 2 Samuel 5:4 (NKJV) 4 David was thirty years old when he began to reign, and he reigned forty years. – Your story is filled with stuff that you overcame. Through all of that, God still elevated you.
  3. Elevation is not based on tenure. The stuff that happened late and night, pushed people through. They were elevated, because they passed some tests and stood some trials!

B.     The persecution was preparation for your position

  1. Galatians 6:9 (NKJV) 9 And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart.- Stop letting them do that to you. We’re all the time letting people frustrate us.
  2. What God has promised, is on the way. 2 Samuel 1:17 (NKJV) 17 Then David lamented with this lamentation over Saul and over Jonathan his son,
  3. There is a them and a they in every city, on every job, and in every family. You have to pull yourself together and not allow the attacks to hinder your gift.
  4. There are people that haven’t been born yet that will reap from your gift. If you quit, you rob people of what God was going to do in their lives.
  5. The stuff you are supposed to doing, is going to bless people. Make up in your mind right now that you are no longer going to let the enemy rob you of your gift.

 

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Part 2: Understanding the Hurt and Hindrances in Your Own House, 08.16.18

Series Title: Overcoming Toxic Relationships

Part 2: Understanding the Hurt and Hindrances in Your Own House

Joseph and His Brothers

Synopsis of Bible Study 08/08/18

Genesis 50:20 says  “20 But as for you, you meant evil against me; but God meant it for good, in order to bring it about as it is this day, to save many people alive.”

I.          Introduction

  1. Relationship hurt is one of the most heartbreaking things you can ever experience in life. The pain of relationships can introduce you to a level of hurt beyond your human comprehension. You find yourself asking the following questions:
    1. “Why did they do it?”
    2. “Why me?”
    3. “What is it about me that causes them to do this to me?”
    4. “Is there something wrong with me?”
    5. “Why now?”
  2. There’s nothing more painful than receiving a hurt from your own house. Even if you try and distance yourselves from the family member, your path has to still cross at times. At the very least, you have to attend family functions.
  3. There is a lot of brokenness found in family hurt.
    1. Psalm 34:18 (NKJV) says 18 The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, And saves such as [a]have a contrite spirit. – God is right there and has a remedy for you. God does not want you to stay in that place that you are.
  4. Cutting ties with your families members is not impossible nor is it against biblical principles.
    1. In the bible, Leban and Jacob went their separate ways.
      1. Genesis 31:49 (NKJV) 49 also Mizpah,[a] because he said, “May the Lord watch between you and me when we are absent one from another. –

II.          The Cost of Favor

A.    The coat of anointing is attractive and costly

  1. Joseph’s father gave him a coat of many colors. This coat represented Joseph’s anointing. The coat of anointing is attractive, but it is
    1. Genesis 37:1-3 (NKJV) 37 Now Jacob dwelt in the land where his father was a [a]stranger, in the land of Canaan. 2 This is the history of Jacob. Joseph, being seventeen years old, was feeding the flock with his brothers. And the lad was with the sons of Bilhah and the sons of Zilpah, his father’s wives; and Joseph brought a bad report of them to his father. 3 Now Israel loved Joseph more than all his children, because he was the son of his old age. Also he made him a tunic of many colors.- As a father, Jacob had love for all of his kids, but he saw something special inside o Joseph.
  2. The coat he gave Joseph was to mark the favor that rested upon him. Whether you know it or not, you have a coat on you, when favor/anointing is upon you.
    1. When you walk in a new space and people don’t like you, it is because of the coat that is on you.
    2. You must know that you must wear your coat.
  3. Often people miss that you are more than the coat that they see on you. Psalm 90:17 (NKJV) 17 And let the beauty of the Lord our God be upon us, And establish the work of our hands for us; Yes, establish the work of our hands
    1. People often look at what is on you externally and they think if they take it, it takes the anointing off of you. This is not true. When favor is on you, it’s on you.

B.     Those closest to you will not always celebrate your dreams

  1. In ancient times, dreams were often associated with messages from deities. Joseph was a dreamer and he had dreams that would give insight to the future of Israel; however, his dreams were not welcomed by his brothers.
    1. Joseph was a dreamer. His dreams wasn’t welcomed by his brothers. This made them hate him even more.
  2. Joseph had a problem. He was a dreamer.
    1. Dream one – The first dream was the sheaves. They bowed down. Genesis 37:6-8 (NKJV) 6 So he said to them, “Please hear this dream which I have dreamed: 7 There we were, binding sheaves in the field. Then behold, my sheaf arose and also stood upright; and indeed your sheaves stood all around and bowed down to my sheaf.” 8 And his brothers said to him, “Shall you indeed reign over us? Or shall you indeed have dominion over us?” So they hated him even more for his dreams and for his words. – Joseph told his brothers that they would have to bow down to him one day. They hated him for this.
    2. Dream twoGenesis 37:9-11 (NKJV) 9 Then he dreamed still another dream and told it to his brothers, and said, “Look, I have dreamed another dream. And this time, the sun, the moon, and the eleven stars bowed down to me.” 10 So he told it to his father and his brothers; and his father rebuked him and said to him, “What is this dream that you have dreamed? Shall your mother and I and your brothers indeed come to bow down to the earth before you?” 11 And his brothers envied him, but his father kept the matter in mind.– In Joseph’s dream, the moon and stars bowed down to him. This meant that even Joseph’s parents would have to bow to him. His father rebuked him for this dream, but he kept the matter in his mind. Joseph’s brothers hated him even more for this dream.
  3. You have to keep your dreams to yourselves sometimes.
    1. The more you tell a hater about your dreams, the more they envy you, because it reminds them of what they are not doing.
  4. Some people don’t have the capacity to share your dreams. You got to know who to share your dreams with and when to share them.
  5. Don’t underestimate the level of pain your family can cause you. The pain from your own house is deep, but God can still heal it.

III.          The conflict with Family

A.    Don’t’ underestimate the level of pain your family can cause you.

  1. Psalm 147:3 (NKJV) 3 He heals the brokenhearted And binds up their [a]wounds.- The Binding of wounds. This doesn’t mean God will immediately erase all the pain in you. God heals the brokenhearted And binds up their [a]wounds- Let’s look at the first part, the broken hearted. Ex-Ever broke a bone? Just like the doctor, God gives you a cast to keep the broken place still, so that it will heal properly.
    1. God needs you to be still so you can heal properly. If we keep running all over the place while we are broken, just like the broken bone, we might heal, but heal crooked.
  2. The stuff in your family is so deep, you might be healed, but you’ve got to be healed properly.
  3. You’ve got to be honest about your hurts.

Reasons family hurt can be so painful:

  1. We think our family member will be here unconditionally. We expect people in the street to do us wrong, but we never expect it from family.
  2. Shared history gives our siblings an unending supply of embarrassing moments in our childhood. Some people can tease you and tease you causing more and more hurt.
  3. Family members tend to depend on each other for support, advice, and finance, but they never help you.
  4. We tend to distance ourselves less from family members when they hurt us compared to our friends.

Common aspects of hurtful family environments

  1. Aggression – If I got to fight at home and work too, then that’s too much fighting.
  2. Lack of affection – Stop marrying people and afterwards, shutting down the shop.
    1. If a man or women leaves for work and they are full, they are less likely to stop by McDonalds, Krystals, or Wendys on the way. (You’ll catch this later on…)
  3. Neglect – Includes not ignoring the other. Even your children, don’t need to be neglected. If you don’t pay attention to you loved one, they will get attention somewhere else. There is someone always waiting for an opportunity to step in.
  4. Violence – You have the responsibility to report abuse in your house.

B.     Family hurt may be damaging to your heart, but it won’t delay God’s plan

  1. Joseph was hurt by his brothers, but it did not hinder God’s plan for him.
    1. Romans 8:28 (NKJV) says 28 And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.- Sometimes it can be hard to deal with family hurt.
    2. Remember 2 Corinthians 4:8-9 (NKJV) says 8 We are hard-pressed on every side, yet not crushed; we are perplexed, but not in despair; 9 persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed—

IV.          The Conviction of Faith

A.    God will call you to help the ones who hated you

  1. The fact that you are here today is evidence that God is at work in your life.
    1. Job 16:6 (NKJV) 6 “Though I speak, my grief is not relieved; And if I remain silent, how am I eased?- We need to notice that after suffering hurt that was supposed to hinder him, Joseph kept his integrity. You have to continue being yourself, even though you are hurt.
  2. After many years, Joseph had to face his brothers again. The same brothers that tried to harm him, had to later face him.
    1. Years later, Pharaoh asked Joseph to interpret his dreams. When Joseph interpreted Pharaoh’s dream, Joseph told him that it meant that there would be 7 yrs of famine and then 7 yrs of plenty.
    2. Joseph was elevated after interpreting the dream. During the 7 yrs of plenty, bread was stored. When the famine came, people had to come and see Joseph to get food.
    3. During the famine, guess who had to come and get food from Joseph? You guessed it. Joseph’s brothers had to come to him for the
    4. Jacob sent Joseph’s brothers to Egypt to get bread, not knowing who was handing it out?
      1. Matthew 5:44 (NKJV) says 44 [a]But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you,– We can’t come down from what God’s words says. Joseph was second in power to Pharaoh. You don’t use your place of elevation for a moment of retaliation.

B.     You don’t get to choose who receives the bread of blessing

  1. You can prevent somebody from getting a blessing, just because of what they have done to you.
    1. Hebrews 10:30 (NKJV) 30 For we know Him who said, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” [a]says the Lord. And again, “The Lord will judge His people.”,
    2. Luke 6:27-28 (NKJV) 27 “But I say to you who hear: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, 28 bless those who curse you, and pray for those who spitefully use you.
    3. Proverbs 25:21-22 (NKJV) 21 If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat; And if he is thirsty, give him water to drink; 22 For so you will heap coals of fire on his head, And the Lord will reward you., – Go on a bless them that have done you wrong!

V.          Conclusion

  1. You make them feel worse, because of your kindness. You do not have to retaliate.

 

  1. When you see Joseph elevated, you can only imagine what Joseph was thinking when he saw them.
    1. Psalm 23:5 (NKJV) 5 You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies; You anoint my head with oil; My cup runs over.- Look at Joseph’s elevation. What do you do, when your own family who did you wrong, come to a place where they have to beg for your help?
  2. Our response should always be this. Genesis 50:19-20 (NKJV) 19 Joseph said to them, “Do not be afraid, for am I in the place of God? 20 But as for you, you meant evil against me; but God meant it for good, in order to bring it about as it is this day, to save many people alive. – In other words, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for my good. Stop trying to get even and watch how God will bless you.
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Help with Funeral

My sister-n-law, Jamie McMurry, passed away suddenedly  Monday July 9th 2018. This was totally unexpected. She has two children ages 13 and 5.

We were informed that she did not have a Life  Insurance Policy.  We need your help with funeral expenses.  Any donation is greatly appreciated and will be given to Strawther and White Funeral.

If you are not comfortable donating to GoFundMe Accounts, then you can call Strawther & White Funeral Home directly for alternative ways to donate. –strawtherfh@gmail.com

615-230-0810

Please mention Grow In the Word Ministry when you donate.

Thanks and God bless you for your help.

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